Honesty – The Path of Least Resistance

“No legacy is so rich as HONESTY.”

William Shakespeare

Wow, a very simple sentence that bears so much truth it is just amazing.

HONESTY a word that almost seems convenient to avoid. We as humans do an impeccable job at making ourselves believe that it is much easier to lie.

Where does HONESTY fit in our society of lawyers who are rewarded for their manipulation of the truth, doctors that are validated through their destruction of health and schools that are paid for their degradation of knowledge?

The answer is pretty simple it belongs in your heart, because if you want to live a life full of love and joy then it all begins with HONESTY.

What is really funny about lying is we normally commit a lie under the pretense of it being easier at the time we say it. Then we have to go the rest of our lives trying to maintain our deceptions at the cost of our own sanity which ends up taking more time and energy than just telling the truth in the first place.

There are so many forms of deceit it is really astounding that some people think they can justify theirs because it was not as “important” as someone else’s. But there are two particularly strange lies that seem to be overlooked and passed on as appropriate or necessary.

“White Lies” – An often trivial, diplomatic or well-intention-ed untruth.

Lie of Omission – Also known as a continuing misrepresentation, a lie by omission occurs when an important fact is left out in order to foster a misconception.

Both of these ridiculous means of communication are commonly perceived as harmless, or benign. Now please don’t misconstrue my words here, I am not claiming to be perfect but I am willing to admit that treating these lies like they have no effect on us or the world around us is foolishly dangerous and disrespectful.

When people use these mechanisms it only ends up making their lives more convoluted and overly complicated. What is even more destructive about it, is that the people we end up using these “harmless” lies with are the people that we care about the most. Normally we justify them with the pretense of doing this because we don’t want to hurt the other person.

Realistically speaking we end up using this broken logic to hide that we are really choosing this option because it appears to be easier. Without any regards for how that person would be affected by finding out the truth we so conveniently tried to hide or deny.

If you have ever been on the receiving end of this exchange you probably don’t enjoy it very much because we all truly enjoy people who sincerely care for us. HONESTY is a characteristic that is viewed like tax responsibility, we always seem to think that it is a big priority for others but would prefer to only bear that burden when it is convenient.

Another harmful side effect of this nasty habit is how it affects our perceptions of reality. As we continue to lie to others it becomes easier and we lie more often. Then that ancient wisdom really seems to shows its merit, because we start seeing the world as a reflection of our own actions and are not able to trust others due to the lies we spread in our own lives.

I’ll tell you from personal experience a person who is willing to risk the convenience of the moment for the future of trust is worth more than anything else in my life. I may be upset briefly but once the initial emotion fades if I can weigh that against the HONESTY of the individual it makes it very easy for me justify keeping that person around. If I am upset and they have no sincerity then it becomes a challenge to convince myself that the individual deserves another opportunity to potentially hurt me again.

Does this mean I think you should be intentionally hurtful to others when they ask you loaded questions? No of course not it requires you to be honest with kindness a unique blend of character that can only be mastered with practice. The simple thing about practice is that is requires you to be willing to admit you will make some mistakes and will need the guidance of others occasionally.

Would this also mean that we should openly condemn ourselves for short comings when others ask about them? I would hope you are perceptive enough to realize that your HONESTY should not be something that you look at as a weakness. What is great about HONESTY is the more you practice it the less you have to worry about it getting you in trouble because as you become more honest, then your life starts reflecting that trait in abundance.

Let me finalize this with a few thoughts or suggestions whatever they may be called. Try taking the time to carefully speak with kindness and HONESTY to others so that you don’t have to keep wasting energy perpetuating a lie that only serves to potentially damage your relationships or mental health. HONESTY is the easiest way to handle life so stop making it harder than it has to be.

As always you are worth MORE THAN GOLD.

THANK YOU and I LOVE YOU!

Sam

What makes a woman beautiful is her loyalty to and her friendships with other women, and her HONESTY with men.
Vanessa Marcil

About sardeneaux

Raised as a preacher's kid for most of his adolescence, Sam is a young man who has come value LOVE and AUTHENTICITY more than anything else. Through the creation of MoreThanGold he hopes to provide a space for personal growth that will inspire others to remember their true worth.

Posted on October 8, 2013, in Journal, Sam and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

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