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Ho’Oponopono – Because Life is Messy

Ho’Oponopono

Because Life is Messy

Ho’Oponopono, is a Hawaiian saying used in healing practices of Kahuna. An expression of love that is designed to help with the self healing process, these words have been coming out of my mouth a lot lately.

What does it mean?

After a quick search you will find there a few varying perspectives on the what the exact translation is but I believe it to be somewhere along the lines of “I Love You, I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You”. You gotta love the Hawaiian dialect with its unique combination of simplicity and depth, because as you look at the word itself it almost appears to be the same word over and over. When you reflect on its translation you see the incredible beauty of this mantra, in one fell swoop these words can communicate one of the most powerful messages the human spirit could ever hear. The trans-formative nature of this expression is beyond my own comprehension but I would love to share my simple perspective and hopefully illuminate how you can use it in your life.

Why I Care.

As a child I was always raised to treat others as I would want to be treated and I assume this was fundamental in helping develop my empathetic nature. This characteristic has helped me form powerful connections with the people I meet, most people are willing to say the trait is a blessing, I would say that learning to feel others pain without taking it on is possibly one of the most challenging aspects of my own personal evolution. The world we live in can be very heavy almost suffocating at times especially as we become more aware of the pain of others. I’m not sure the exact the time but somewhere in my teens I became conscious of the deep rooted corruption of this world, not surprisingly, I did not know how to cope with this new awareness. Once you can start to see the interconnectivity of life then you start to feel the pain and suffering of the general human consciousness, not because it is the most powerful or dominant but more because it is like a wounded child screaming for attention. Most of my late teens were spent in a blur of substance abuse designed to help dull the undisciplined empathy that was gnawing at my heart,  then in my early to mid twenties I started looking at ways to “fix” the planet…… both of these failed. For someone like me that failure was an essential part of my learning process, as with most humans I learn from mistakes. At first this failure was discouraging, I took it personal, now when looking at it I can see the flaw in my logic, I thought I was apart from this world.

Heal Yourself, Heal the World

“In deep and lasting ways, when we heal ourselves we heal the world.” Mark Nepo

I understand that not everyone wants to heal the world that can be pretty intimidating but I want to start here as I believe it will help us better understand the relationship between our inner and outer worlds. The truth is to think you can fix the planet is incredibly immature, I mean who am I to say I know how things should be, I would like to think I know how good they could be but that doesn’t mean I am right. On a deeper level I can see this was just a more elaborate way of running from my emotional pain, yes that is right some times becoming so busy trying to help others is just easier than stopping to look at ourselves. Occasionally we are fortunate enough to observe our ridiculous habits, and when you are able to look at those habits without judgement is when you start to recognize the true motivation behind them. Revealing the root of your emotional pain is like finding a small child crying in the corner of your mind, hiding in fear from a violent world it doesn’t understand. Then it hits you, that wounded little human is you, not you as you are today but the you born for this world to know, before you let the opinions and actions of other make you believe that you were undeserving of acceptance. Once you see that then you just want to pick the child up hold it and say “I love you just as you are, I’m sorry I tried to change you, please forgive me for ignoring you, and thank you for not giving up on me” and as you say that to your inner child you slowly feel the pain of the world around you lessen and peace start to grow. The theory being that the pain you feel around you is really just a reflection of the pain you are feeling inside, like an open wound your past emotional trauma is hypersensitive to things that mirror your pain. As you continue to heal and comfort your inner child, you notice the world around you changing, no corruption doesn’t magically end and people still make a ton of mistakes, instead you just start to see the child inside of others and can relate to their actions better without judgement which makes it easier to live in harmony with them.

Finding Closure

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”

Closure has been a foreign concept for me most of my life, as far as I knew life was a culmination of loose ends and mishaps that we were doomed to repeat. Now the value of closure is starting to reveal itself to me and I can see that my previous assumption was only partially correct, closure is designed to help us grow from our mistakes so we can finally move on and make new ones. Whereas without closure we are inevitably thrown into a never ending of loop of repeated errors until we decide to sit down and digest the lesson that life is trying to teach us. We all know that finding closure is normally easier said than done, because most of the closure we are seeking involves our relationships with others, people who we might not be able to communicate directly with either because they are no longer in this realm of existence or because that person does not want know you. So finding closure in these situations becomes a little more complex, you can’t force someone to have a relationship and as far as I know nobody has successfully revived the dead in these modern times. In situations like this, the power of Ho’Oponopono shines through clearly, these words have a unique ability to help you deal with feelings of guilt that are commonly associated with relationships that meet an abrupt end. No this is not a silver bullet that will instantly help you release your pent up emotions, these words are meant to attune your inner emotional state to that of love so the emotions can exist within you without you feeling the need to judge or repress them, a necessary part of processing and growing. This is equally as valuable if you were the one that was wronged because believe it or not your unspoken resentment towards that person is just as destructive as guilt and learning to love those people as you would love your inner child makes their transgressions much less about you and more about them.

Sharing My Practice

So if you feel like this practice would benefit you I encourage you to try it, my approach is fairly unrefined but for now it meets my needs. Find a picture or a simple possession that brings up a strong emotion for the person you have the unresolved feelings towards, sit and hold it, look at it if you can, then just say Ho’Oponopono and then I even repeat it in English  a few times if necessary. Yes you are likely to cry and if you are anything like me it will be big salty tears with your snotty nose running all over the place, but if you can just bear your ugly crying face and just allow it to flow out, this expression will help you feel loved while you do, so that the emotion can pass through you and stop wreaking havoc on your internal peace. There are definitely more refined approaches to this practice honed by spiritual leaders far more experienced than I, regardless if you are not able to see those people or do not desire to wade through all the fluff of internet search results then I invite you to at least start with my rudimentary practice.

 

Let me wrap this up with some of my more recent thoughts on this subject. The world around us is suffering from intense emotional pain, centuries of war, slavery, extreme addiction, poverty, spiritual suppression the list goes on, but when we look at it all holistically we can obviously say those are mainly symptoms of a society that has been tricked into believing our emotions and feelings have the right to dictate our lives. So now more than ever is the right time for humans to start healing our emotional wounds, that way we can comfort our inner children and better understand the hurt of those around us. Together we can begin the process of making the human spirit whole again instead of fragmented in opposition, if not for future generations, at least so we can better enjoy this amazing time that we are so lucky to witness.

Thanks for tuning in and as always you are worth More Than Gold.

Love,

Sam

 

Community – The Roots of Life

Community

The Roots of Life

 

Imagine a tree, towering above the shrubbery, providing shade for all things below it. A stoutly behemoth that uses its innate wisdom to cultivate various forms of life.

Abundance and prosperity surround this timeless epicenter, undoubtedly caused by the fruit naturally produced through energy gathered from thousands of leaves and nutrients absorbed by a complex underground network. Whether that fruit is taken by another creature as sustenance or left to decompose their life is returned to the earth in a symbiotic dance of life.

What allows the tree to bear its fruit?

Well that is quite simple, it’s the life sustained by its roots. Of course there are leaves that gather energy and limbs that extend them out, there is even a sturdy trunk that holds the weight of all the limbs, leaves and fruit.

For most trees though none of this would be possible without an anchored base to build upon that provides a consistent supply of nourishment. By all means do not get me wrong the tree requires every part to function in order to produce a delicious treat that allows them to propagate.

Recognizing the parallels of life.

A common trend in life is that most organisms are comprised of individual organs working collaboratively. Whether they are as simple as the parts of a tree or you break it down to the microorganisms that function within our plasma and allow us to assimilate nutrients.

That simple perspective can be applied to most things large or small of course maybe they don’t all tie in to a tree as neatly but that is the fun when trying to reduce the complex down to it’s simple components. What seems to be overlooked, is that human beings may be complex organisms, but we are still just part of a super organism that sustains our very existence.

Calm down this is not just some tree hugging hippie telling you take care of planet earth, the truth is I am much more interested in taking a holistic approach for the world I borrow from my children. I consider the current state of our beautiful blue spaceship and the chaos of its inhabitants merely symptoms.

Getting to the Root

People have to rely heavily on resources owned by companies that are so effectively designed for profit that malignant AI has been created and gone unnoticed. Mega corporations skilfully  crafted to operate with callous efficiency, a supercode of a sort that was intended to run upon the human operating system.

A distinction made about our current era in history is that people are enabled to connect on an unprecedented level of speed and range. On the opposite side of that coin comes the concept that we now feel more isolated than ever recorded.

Would the problems of this world be perceived as insurmountable if we were able to rely on the cooperation of our co-inhabitants to resolve them?

It seems like a childish question to ask, most people can admit that there is nothing that can’t be accomplished by some diligent people working towards a common goal. Well I am willing to ask about the elephant in the room, why don’t we all just start working together?

Tin foil hats aside.

The answer can be reached very simply, when the limb is severed from the tree the leaves are the first to die. We are slowly disconnecting from the very organism that supports our growth. There is a greater human consciousness at work within this world, one that our ancestors revered and their oppressors feared.

The sleeping giant that will change the world, is not just the american public or even the millennials but the good people of this world. We all do the best we can with our own resources and knowledge but know that we can only accomplish so much alone. Neighbors around the world are inviting each other over for dinner and entrepreneurs are lending their expertise to their communities.

These are just common gestures of a community, that are normally limited to smaller regions due to lack of proper organization or communication. In times past we could say it was too hard for people work effectively across larger distances, if not just because the delay in communication. The current capabilities in communication would say that excuse seems pretty flimsy.

Growing the roots.

With all of the developments in technology one could say the human tree has been moved from its staging pot to a big open forest. The root system was too crowded in it’s previous environment but now it has room to grow. People are enabled to connect in incredibly remarkable ways, distance is truly becoming an illusion and cooperation is becoming even more common.

With more than 7,000,000,000 people on this planet for you to think that you are alone means your not paying attention. we can accomplish so many great things as soon as we start seeing the similarities in people not the differences.

A great way to change your perceptions of others is by spending more time with them. The more often you find yourself amongst people with common interest, the easier it becomes for you to accept their differences and then eventually you will respect the opinions of others.

To paraphrase a popular song, “What better place than here, what better time than now?”

So let’s rebuild our communities in the way we see fit, for our own lives not the ones we have been told we have to live. It’s time we start building our communities so that we can see a positive change even the tiniest of ripples can creates waves.

I will leave you with one last question before I end this. if you were empowered through a network of supportive people, what would you like to accomplish to improve the general quality of life for others?

As always you are worth MORE THAN GOLD.

THANK YOU and I LOVE YOU

Sam

FGF – Monty Python and the Holy Grail

Monty Python and the Holy Grail

 

This movie was one of my favorites growing up and had huge impact on my comedic preferences as an adult check out some of these awesome clips from a legendary comedy.

*This may not be suitable for all audiences* Enjoy

 

Lao Tzu – Kindness

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.

Lao Tzu – Silence

Silence is a source of great strength.

Lao Tzu – Appreciation

Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.

Carpe diem – Video clips

Here are some supporting videos for the entry I will be posting tonight. Enjoy. 🙂

I’m not sure who she is but this young lady says it very well.

This gentleman had a great perspective on life that can really help you realize the truth about being present

 

 

Quotes – Change

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Wayne Dyer

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.

Alan Watts

Life belongs to the living, and he who lives must be prepared for changes.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

To change what you get you must change who you are.

Vernon Howard

Blind Melon – Change

This song seems to put a smile on my face and makes everything seem a little bit easier in life hope this gets your day started off right!

FGF – Tom & Jerry

Aw yeah little bit of that old school good stuff.