The best and safest thing is to keep a balance in your life, acknowledge the great powers around us and in us. If you can do that, and live that way, you are really a wise man.
Because Life is Messy
Ho’Oponopono, is a Hawaiian saying used in healing practices of Kahuna. An expression of love that is designed to help with the self healing process, these words have been coming out of my mouth a lot lately.
What does it mean?
After a quick search you will find there a few varying perspectives on the what the exact translation is but I believe it to be somewhere along the lines of “I Love You, I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You”. You gotta love the Hawaiian dialect with its unique combination of simplicity and depth, because as you look at the word itself it almost appears to be the same word over and over. When you reflect on its translation you see the incredible beauty of this mantra, in one fell swoop these words can communicate one of the most powerful messages the human spirit could ever hear. The trans-formative nature of this expression is beyond my own comprehension but I would love to share my simple perspective and hopefully illuminate how you can use it in your life.
Why I Care.
As a child I was always raised to treat others as I would want to be treated and I assume this was fundamental in helping develop my empathetic nature. This characteristic has helped me form powerful connections with the people I meet, most people are willing to say the trait is a blessing, I would say that learning to feel others pain without taking it on is possibly one of the most challenging aspects of my own personal evolution. The world we live in can be very heavy almost suffocating at times especially as we become more aware of the pain of others. I’m not sure the exact the time but somewhere in my teens I became conscious of the deep rooted corruption of this world, not surprisingly, I did not know how to cope with this new awareness. Once you can start to see the interconnectivity of life then you start to feel the pain and suffering of the general human consciousness, not because it is the most powerful or dominant but more because it is like a wounded child screaming for attention. Most of my late teens were spent in a blur of substance abuse designed to help dull the undisciplined empathy that was gnawing at my heart, then in my early to mid twenties I started looking at ways to “fix” the planet…… both of these failed. For someone like me that failure was an essential part of my learning process, as with most humans I learn from mistakes. At first this failure was discouraging, I took it personal, now when looking at it I can see the flaw in my logic, I thought I was apart from this world.
Heal Yourself, Heal the World
“In deep and lasting ways, when we heal ourselves we heal the world.” Mark Nepo
I understand that not everyone wants to heal the world that can be pretty intimidating but I want to start here as I believe it will help us better understand the relationship between our inner and outer worlds. The truth is to think you can fix the planet is incredibly immature, I mean who am I to say I know how things should be, I would like to think I know how good they could be but that doesn’t mean I am right. On a deeper level I can see this was just a more elaborate way of running from my emotional pain, yes that is right some times becoming so busy trying to help others is just easier than stopping to look at ourselves. Occasionally we are fortunate enough to observe our ridiculous habits, and when you are able to look at those habits without judgement is when you start to recognize the true motivation behind them. Revealing the root of your emotional pain is like finding a small child crying in the corner of your mind, hiding in fear from a violent world it doesn’t understand. Then it hits you, that wounded little human is you, not you as you are today but the you born for this world to know, before you let the opinions and actions of other make you believe that you were undeserving of acceptance. Once you see that then you just want to pick the child up hold it and say “I love you just as you are, I’m sorry I tried to change you, please forgive me for ignoring you, and thank you for not giving up on me” and as you say that to your inner child you slowly feel the pain of the world around you lessen and peace start to grow. The theory being that the pain you feel around you is really just a reflection of the pain you are feeling inside, like an open wound your past emotional trauma is hypersensitive to things that mirror your pain. As you continue to heal and comfort your inner child, you notice the world around you changing, no corruption doesn’t magically end and people still make a ton of mistakes, instead you just start to see the child inside of others and can relate to their actions better without judgement which makes it easier to live in harmony with them.
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”
Closure has been a foreign concept for me most of my life, as far as I knew life was a culmination of loose ends and mishaps that we were doomed to repeat. Now the value of closure is starting to reveal itself to me and I can see that my previous assumption was only partially correct, closure is designed to help us grow from our mistakes so we can finally move on and make new ones. Whereas without closure we are inevitably thrown into a never ending of loop of repeated errors until we decide to sit down and digest the lesson that life is trying to teach us. We all know that finding closure is normally easier said than done, because most of the closure we are seeking involves our relationships with others, people who we might not be able to communicate directly with either because they are no longer in this realm of existence or because that person does not want know you. So finding closure in these situations becomes a little more complex, you can’t force someone to have a relationship and as far as I know nobody has successfully revived the dead in these modern times. In situations like this, the power of Ho’Oponopono shines through clearly, these words have a unique ability to help you deal with feelings of guilt that are commonly associated with relationships that meet an abrupt end. No this is not a silver bullet that will instantly help you release your pent up emotions, these words are meant to attune your inner emotional state to that of love so the emotions can exist within you without you feeling the need to judge or repress them, a necessary part of processing and growing. This is equally as valuable if you were the one that was wronged because believe it or not your unspoken resentment towards that person is just as destructive as guilt and learning to love those people as you would love your inner child makes their transgressions much less about you and more about them.
Sharing My Practice
So if you feel like this practice would benefit you I encourage you to try it, my approach is fairly unrefined but for now it meets my needs. Find a picture or a simple possession that brings up a strong emotion for the person you have the unresolved feelings towards, sit and hold it, look at it if you can, then just say Ho’Oponopono and then I even repeat it in English a few times if necessary. Yes you are likely to cry and if you are anything like me it will be big salty tears with your snotty nose running all over the place, but if you can just bear your ugly crying face and just allow it to flow out, this expression will help you feel loved while you do, so that the emotion can pass through you and stop wreaking havoc on your internal peace. There are definitely more refined approaches to this practice honed by spiritual leaders far more experienced than I, regardless if you are not able to see those people or do not desire to wade through all the fluff of internet search results then I invite you to at least start with my rudimentary practice.
Let me wrap this up with some of my more recent thoughts on this subject. The world around us is suffering from intense emotional pain, centuries of war, slavery, extreme addiction, poverty, spiritual suppression the list goes on, but when we look at it all holistically we can obviously say those are mainly symptoms of a society that has been tricked into believing our emotions and feelings have the right to dictate our lives. So now more than ever is the right time for humans to start healing our emotional wounds, that way we can comfort our inner children and better understand the hurt of those around us. Together we can begin the process of making the human spirit whole again instead of fragmented in opposition, if not for future generations, at least so we can better enjoy this amazing time that we are so lucky to witness.
Thanks for tuning in and as always you are worth More Than Gold.
The Road Less Traveled
The road less traveled, an expression we have all heard and most of us have our own definition of what it means. To put this expression into context it is not only limited to destinations but also encompasses major life changes and personal development.
Where it all begins…
There you are, walking down the nice paved road of life observing the rules, reading all the signs, and flowing with traffic. Then it happens you accidentally stray off the beaten path, you suddenly disconnect from your distractions and recognize the immensity of your sense based experience known as life. Your world has changed, the possibilities are limitless and best of all your perspective is now beginning to reflect back the essence of curiosity. You now know there is more to life than what you could see from the safety of the masses, there is a beautiful world of creatures, plants, panoramic scenery, secret watering holes, and the list keeps going it’s all just waiting for your appreciation.
A new perspective.
The curtain has fallen, you can now see the strings attached and the hollow cardboard cut outs attempting to represent value in society. Like milk, your taste for the norm has soured, new cultures are causing the fermentation of your perception. You start to question the world around you looking and listening in new ways, kind of like a more mature return to infancy. Eventually you yearn for more than what that nice paved road can offer because you know where it leads. Driven by the urge to experience and grow, your innate purpose is now starting to evolve beyond the current circumstance and it pushes you to create a new environment for yourself.
Incoming reality check.
Trailblazing comes at its own cost, there are pitfalls, wrong turns, dead ends and even the dreaded backtracking, like a slap to the face, the reality of this new perspective has reared it’s ugly head. A wave of fear crashes into you and derails your train of dreams. You look back to that road of comfort and security in hopes of being able to forget all that you recently learned, only to find that it no longer fosters those feelings inside of you. Now what? You are thirsty and the only way to slake your thirst is wrought with peril. Avoidance is a weak tool against the outcry of your soul’s true desire and soon becomes inept at silencing that inner voice, so you gradually prepare yourself for the road ahead.
The Master Plan.
Determination sets in and you decide to make your thoughts a reality, a strategic approach to shaping your world. Looking at your ambitions and the best way to actualize them, a plan starts to form and your confidence slowly grows. An ancient primal instinct kicks in and you start evaluating your resources carefully organizing them by necessity and luxury trying to determine if they add value or detract. Your situation becomes more temporary by the day. As you feel more confident in your plan, you slowly let go of the little “problems” you were struggling with because ultimately you know worry is a squandered use of your resources. Preparations have been made, lists have been checked and you begin the bittersweet process of saying goodbye to your comfort and false sense of security.
Sentimental good byes aside you know the time has come for you to take that fancy plan of yours and put it to use. Truth is your plan sucks, don’t worry pretty much everyone else’s does too. There is no way you can account for half of the random shit that happens in life, much less when you have decided to put yourself outside of your current understanding in order to stimulate growth. With every mistake made you learn a little more, some times you might even laugh about it. Your ability to handle the unexpected surprises even you sometimes, but you know most of all it is due to something greater than you could ever comprehend. The interconnected nature of life slowly reveals itself to you like a flower in bloom illuminating all the vibrant colors, intricate patterns, and simple elegance.
Enjoying the ride.
There is no guarantee of a happy ending, nor any promise of “success” in this life these things can only be defined by you, as you continue to grow in experience. For most people that master plan is eventually put aside knowing now that the things that strategy was designed to accomplish came from a place of ignorance. To find peace in your journey is much more rewarding than any one accomplishment or destination, plus it makes the journey more enjoyable.
The road less traveled is less traveled for a reason, it’s not for everyone, it’s for you.
I don’t pretend to speak for everyone’s experience and I would never even try, but I would like to thank you for joining me on my journey and hope you can find something that relates to you on yours.
As always you are worth More Than Gold.
A Beast Run Rampant
Negligence, a fitting theme for my first blog post in a long time.
Looking at some of my previous posts I must warn that this one may not be quite so inspiring or motivational, but perhaps through my process of personal admittance you can find some solace in knowing that all humans have room to grow.
As of late my life has been swept up in the constant stimulation and sensory overload that is known for it’s vice like grip on modern society. With brief windows of clarity that seem to be serving as a way for my soul to take a breath while I unconsciously try to drown out my feelings. Truth be told those feelings are not the real problem, and I know this, they are just a symptom.
Why I am running from them?
The short answer is fear, we all have feelings in our life that occasionally bring out parts of our character we would like to believe don’t exist. Once we encounter these feelings we come to question our own integrity, sadly looking at our feelings as they were to be perceived by others around us and then reacting in shame. This faulty logic leads us to ignore the emotional road signs our true self is trying to provide in hopes of helping us correct the root cause of the feeling. Thus we continuously neglect our emotional well being, slowly numbing it out through acts of sensory stimulation that provide a short term feel good in place of a long term remedy we need.
Through this process we slowly sever our ties with our eternal source of joy and peace, and gradually transform into the walking dead, nothing more than zombies stumbling through life attempting to find sustenance from hollow corpses of temporary stimulation. This negligence creates an unquenchable thirst within us one that can only be slaked with a drink from direct connection with self, but the bitter taste of emotion hides the sweet water of understanding.
I would like to believe this is something most people experience in life, although I do also acknowledge that not every does. If you are like me and happen to be reading this at one of those breathing moments in life please know you are not alone, this thing called life is a shared experience. For this fact I am grateful, because being alone with your problems is possibly the worst thing that could happen, it never fails that when I sit alone with my “problems” my brain is not nearly as interested in resolving the cause of my feelings as it is in creating nifty tricks on how to avoid that feeling altogether. I guess I am fortunate enough to have a strong body mind and soul connection that eventually what I try to avoid in my head will slowly manifest itself in my body and of course physical pain can be a strong motivator.
I’m not sure I have a happy ending for this post, to be honest some times you have to face the ugly truth and allow those unpleasant feelings to exist, yes it can be scary but once you have the courage to feel those emotions you’ll find that your heart is trying to tell you something it considers very important for your overall well being in life. One bit of advice is don’t face those feelings alone reach out to family, friends or appropriate support groups/professionals. Just because you want to face those feelings doesn’t mean you have to let them beat you down, the people in your life are there for reason, not because they think you are some amazing super hero but because they appreciate you for the human you are and love you all the same.
Remember you are not alone and of course your are worth More Than Gold.
Thank you and I Love You,
The Roots of Life
Imagine a tree, towering above the shrubbery, providing shade for all things below it. A stoutly behemoth that uses its innate wisdom to cultivate various forms of life.
Abundance and prosperity surround this timeless epicenter, undoubtedly caused by the fruit naturally produced through energy gathered from thousands of leaves and nutrients absorbed by a complex underground network. Whether that fruit is taken by another creature as sustenance or left to decompose their life is returned to the earth in a symbiotic dance of life.
What allows the tree to bear its fruit?
Well that is quite simple, it’s the life sustained by its roots. Of course there are leaves that gather energy and limbs that extend them out, there is even a sturdy trunk that holds the weight of all the limbs, leaves and fruit.
For most trees though none of this would be possible without an anchored base to build upon that provides a consistent supply of nourishment. By all means do not get me wrong the tree requires every part to function in order to produce a delicious treat that allows them to propagate.
Recognizing the parallels of life.
A common trend in life is that most organisms are comprised of individual organs working collaboratively. Whether they are as simple as the parts of a tree or you break it down to the microorganisms that function within our plasma and allow us to assimilate nutrients.
That simple perspective can be applied to most things large or small of course maybe they don’t all tie in to a tree as neatly but that is the fun when trying to reduce the complex down to it’s simple components. What seems to be overlooked, is that human beings may be complex organisms, but we are still just part of a super organism that sustains our very existence.
Calm down this is not just some tree hugging hippie telling you take care of planet earth, the truth is I am much more interested in taking a holistic approach for the world I borrow from my children. I consider the current state of our beautiful blue spaceship and the chaos of its inhabitants merely symptoms.
Getting to the Root
People have to rely heavily on resources owned by companies that are so effectively designed for profit that malignant AI has been created and gone unnoticed. Mega corporations skilfully crafted to operate with callous efficiency, a supercode of a sort that was intended to run upon the human operating system.
A distinction made about our current era in history is that people are enabled to connect on an unprecedented level of speed and range. On the opposite side of that coin comes the concept that we now feel more isolated than ever recorded.
Would the problems of this world be perceived as insurmountable if we were able to rely on the cooperation of our co-inhabitants to resolve them?
It seems like a childish question to ask, most people can admit that there is nothing that can’t be accomplished by some diligent people working towards a common goal. Well I am willing to ask about the elephant in the room, why don’t we all just start working together?
Tin foil hats aside.
The answer can be reached very simply, when the limb is severed from the tree the leaves are the first to die. We are slowly disconnecting from the very organism that supports our growth. There is a greater human consciousness at work within this world, one that our ancestors revered and their oppressors feared.
The sleeping giant that will change the world, is not just the american public or even the millennials but the good people of this world. We all do the best we can with our own resources and knowledge but know that we can only accomplish so much alone. Neighbors around the world are inviting each other over for dinner and entrepreneurs are lending their expertise to their communities.
These are just common gestures of a community, that are normally limited to smaller regions due to lack of proper organization or communication. In times past we could say it was too hard for people work effectively across larger distances, if not just because the delay in communication. The current capabilities in communication would say that excuse seems pretty flimsy.
Growing the roots.
With all of the developments in technology one could say the human tree has been moved from its staging pot to a big open forest. The root system was too crowded in it’s previous environment but now it has room to grow. People are enabled to connect in incredibly remarkable ways, distance is truly becoming an illusion and cooperation is becoming even more common.
With more than 7,000,000,000 people on this planet for you to think that you are alone means your not paying attention. we can accomplish so many great things as soon as we start seeing the similarities in people not the differences.
A great way to change your perceptions of others is by spending more time with them. The more often you find yourself amongst people with common interest, the easier it becomes for you to accept their differences and then eventually you will respect the opinions of others.
To paraphrase a popular song, “What better place than here, what better time than now?”
So let’s rebuild our communities in the way we see fit, for our own lives not the ones we have been told we have to live. It’s time we start building our communities so that we can see a positive change even the tiniest of ripples can creates waves.
I will leave you with one last question before I end this. if you were empowered through a network of supportive people, what would you like to accomplish to improve the general quality of life for others?
As always you are worth MORE THAN GOLD.
THANK YOU and I LOVE YOU
Rebuilding the Foundation
Awfully quiet around here lately……….
I wish I had some amazing adventure that I could say was distracting me, honestly speaking that is not the case.
I must admit I have been avoiding my blog.
Funny thing about running from your problems is that you carry them with you, so when its all said and done you still have those problems and now you are tired.
Well I am tired, worn down, and this emotional exhaustion has even manifested itself into a physical illness within my body.
When I think of the original intent of my blog it was clearly defined as a positive resource for authentic human experience. Designed as a space for others to share their personal insights and anything that they thought would add value to other’s lives.
I had invited quite a few people to join me in this journey, as I decided to traverse the human spirit and redefine worth. It was received with much enthusiasm and initially a few people took me up on the offer. Then over time it became a new a individual creative outlet, one that allowed me to delve into the creative side of my mind with a new medium.
Was I disappointed? A little.
But not for anything other than my ego based sense of rejection saying that I had not done a good enough job.
Now I know that there is quite a bit of error in that thought process as someone else’s desire to participate in my personal journey is not a reflection of anything other than their desire to travel their own path.
What does this have to do with humility?
Well this blog was just one of many things that had “gone wrong” in my life over that last year or so.
I would prefer to not list all of my recent errors but lets just say that if one must fail in order to succeed then I should be well on my way to success lol.
“Humility is the solid foundation of all virtues.”
Perhaps my life was under serious reconstruction and I needed to set a new foundation of humility for my life to build upon. Or am I just a fool hearty youngster whose desire to comprehend the vast greatness of life was expressed through a series of brash decisions? Probably a bit of both.
Regardless the answer here I am, tired, sick and humbled.
Strange enough I am no longer afraid, nor am I bitter, because I know now that my heart is in control as my brain seems to have admitted it has not the ability to “fix” the current situation of my life and only through my sincere humility can I scrape the pieces of my life back together to start rebuilding.
The old expression of practice what you preach is ringing so loudly in my ears that I’ll be deaf to the voice of my ego for an indeterminable duration.
Have I learned my lesson? Not completely for if I did I would no longer need to live in this plane of existence.
So what did I learn?
A bunch of different things, to start I learned that personal desire does not constitute absolute reality, and trying to interpret the divine essence of life through the limited practice of risk taking can really leave one wanting.
Along with those lessons I also learned that because I am good at something does not mean I have to do it nor is it good for me. Judgement is not limited to negative perceptions of others it can include making positive assumptions as well.
Most importantly I learned that despite how much I consciously or unconsciously destroy my life I am always loved.
This is the most humbling thought of all, for all your false senses of security or ego based concepts of independence we all fall down some of us flat on our faces. The only thing that we can do is ask for help and get back to doing what we feel is correct.
So I decided to start here, if only for the sake of clearing the air, a sort of spring cleaning for my soul.
Now don’t worry some of this may sound negative and yes even people like me experience self inflicted pain, but I feel that this is a great way to start the healing process. I mean really what better way to continue the journey into authenticity then by revealing my own humanity to a bunch of “strangers”.
So take what you want from this entry and share it with others if you feel it resonates with you personally. I want to thank you for taking the time to read it, if there is anything you would like to hear my opinion on shoot me an email or just comment on this entry I would love to hear from you.
For now I will leave you with a question to ponder.
If arrogance blinds then what does humility allow us to see?
Thanks for sticking and remember you are all worth MORE THAN GOLD.
No weapon has ever settled a moral problem. It can impose a solution but it cannot guarantee it to be a just one.
The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.
A Mindful Practice
Manifesting, what does this mean?
According to Merriam-Webster it is defined as “readily perceived by the senses and especially by the sense of sight”
Honestly speaking when I hear the word manifest I think of a genie, you know the kind that live in old lamps, a mental image of items materializing in front of me seems to be my direct interpretation. Which of course is not exactly as we see described above
When I think about it a little deeper I realized that I had been confusing manifesting with wishing for magic. Now some people might have already had a clear definition of this word but something tells me I am not the only person to fall victim of this misinterpretation.
So what does it really mean to manifest your true intentions?
Well it is clear that it does not mean making the things you want in your life just magically appear.
My interpretation of this expression is that, to manifest your true intentions means fine tuning your mind to be hypersensitive to people, places and things that resonate harmoniously with the great essence that dwells within you.
What? Yeah I know hold on, Let me adjust my vernacular.
Manifesting your true intentions is like calibrating your mind and body so that they can notice all the things around you that make you feel at peace thus allowing you to act upon things that uplift your spirit.
I think that makes more sense…….I hope.
Why do people keep talking about it?
First off it just sounds so damn catchy right?
People are prone to repeat things that have a certain ring to them. Then there is the whole wishing for magic things that could be causing some of this as well.
Other than bogus “spiritual” leaders or new age philosophers having something new to sell you in their next book what is the importance of this practice?
It seems clear to me that becoming attuned to the things that help elevate your spirit is like magnetizing your life to naturally attract things that help you grow with appreciation.
When we look at the world at large we can say there is a growing percentage of people who are becoming more disconnected from their higher power, inner being or self. If I were to assert my observation on this situation then I would say it seems that quite a few people are in careers, fields of study, relationships, and locations that do not agree with what they truly want for their life.
Perhaps the collective consciousness is pushing towards practices that will put us back in touch with our true self and how to change the course of this ill fated journey known as the human experience.
Sounds like a bunch of psychobabble
Fair enough, but if you have gotten this far into the blog entry then it is safe to say you would like to have a little bit more of the things that make your soul feel at ease in your life.
I consider it equivalent to exercise or reading, except you don’t need anything other than a little bit of time and the desire to live a life that brings out your true potential. Personally I don’t see anything negative in wanting to consciously improve your life so that it reflects your inner most desires.
How does one manifest?
There are quite a few people out there that will sell you workshops or one on one training in this practice. By all means if you are interest in paying someone else to help you remember how to tap into your innate prosperity then that is your decision. Of course you might as well be purchasing your own flatulence in a jar because manifesting is something you do naturally.
The truth of the matter is we are all expert manifesters sometimes so good we end up getting buried under negativity and mindless garbage.
Policing Your Thoughts
Don’t worry this can easily be changed it simply requires you practice a habit I like to call “policing your thoughts” this doesn’t mean imposing your negative emotions from being picked on in high school on your thoughts. What it means is actively watching your thoughts and feelings to make sure that you are not focusing on the negative aspects of your life or projecting your fears into your foreseeable future.
Along with “policing your thoughts” you must learn to get in touch with things that resonate with your true essence. This is actually a lot easier than you would think because your body and mind are giving you cues as to what reflects your true intent. The real problem is you don’t know that you are missing these cues because they have been inadequately labeled your personal interests on average.
So steal a couple minutes from your day ask yourself questions such as “What do I want from life? How do i feel about my current situation? What are things I enjoy most about my existence?” Keep an eye out for negative thought processes such as doubt or unfounded skepticism. When you find yourself in that moment of extreme bliss stop for a second try to observe what you are doing so you can try to recreate it or foster a life that cultivates that feeling.
Thanks for tuning in and as always you are worth MORE THAN GOLD
THANK YOU and I LOVE
Life grants nothing to us mortals without hard work.